If It's Meant To Be

Tuesday, February 18, 2020

We hear it all the time from friends to family members, and reading about in articles on the web — if it's meant to be it will be. It fills us up with confidence and gives us the appearance that we're not the slightest bit worried about the outcome of our future. However, how many of us actually believe the phrase "if it's meant to be it will be?" I'll go ahead and say I'm fifty-fifty. I like to think that I believe it, but find myself struggling when things go in the opposite direction of what I imagined. Sometimes it's hard to be optimistic when you work so hard towards what you are pursuing, and the doors are always slammed in your face.

Recently I've found myself trying to rely on that phrase more often than not. A life-changing opportunity came my way that I felt in my soul was for me. I prepared, put in the work, and executed what was asked of me. This was the first time in a while that I felt confident in my work, and that made me excited to hear the results. Usually, I don't think about the outcome of my work. I do the job and let it go. Knowing that it's out of my hands, and there's nothing left for me to do. During the time of me waiting to hear back, I tried to tell myself that "if it's meant to be it will be." I said it because it was comforting to say, and for a small moment, it took my mind off of wondering if I was going to land the job or not, as well as helping me cope with my frazzled mind and reality. A few days later, I received the news that I didn't get the job. At first, I was okay, but once I had the chance to really process everything as a whole, I was devastated. The heaviness that I felt on my heart was unbearable, and I spiraled into an emotional pit.

"Am I good enough? What's wrong with me? Am I ever going to experience a breakthrough?" were the questions that kept floating in my head. My reaction to this situation was so unhealthy. Thinking that way weighed me down so much that it started to interfere with me getting my other work done. I almost lost the motivation to do anything. Searching for a way to pull myself out of this space, I revisited the phrase "If its meant to be it will be." This time I sat with that and really focused on it. I wanted to believe it to be true in my soul. To visualize the truth in that phrase to help me make peace with what wasn't. With me fighting for a better perspective, I was finally able to see the truth in it.

If it's meant to be, it will be. Every situation that we encounter has a purpose, and that purpose can sometimes be found in the smaller details of what's happening. It's not always the bigger picture of getting that life-changing opportunity, but rather seeing how capable you are to put in the work for it — or even seeing how you are good enough for top consideration. That right, there is major within itself and deserves to be recognized as winning. Whatever you are supposed to have in life, you will receive it. It's already within you. Relieve yourself of disappointments and trust that if its meant to be it will be. You'll find that it makes your journey in life more peaceful.

Photographer: Christian K. Germany